Focused Attention eZine ~ How to Avoid Confrontation

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		In this issue: - A note from Beth and Neill - Feature Article How to Avoid Confrontation? The 3 secrets - Focused Attention Update Access Seminar Starts September 10th - Focused Attention Recommendations *The I AM Foundation*		Please forward The Focused Attention eZine and share these relationship-enhancing articles with your family, friends, and colleagues. If you are not subscribed and wish to be -> Subscribe here Please add "Beth@FocusedAttention.com" to your whitelist or address book in your email anti-spam program, so that you have no trouble receiving future issues!

		A note from Beth and Neill

		Fear You can learn so much from animals. We have a dog named Maxx and a cat named Socrates. It seems that whenever we stop and really watch them they become little windows to eternal wisdom. One recent evening while I (Beth) was relaxing watching a movie, I looked over to see Maxx standing by the back door waiting patiently to come back in. I went back to watching my movie. After he saw me look at him, he started barking. I guess he was sure that since I'd seen him I certainly could let him in NOW. I didn't want to get up and let him in that moment so I looked back over and told him to stop barking. He stopped for a moment and then started again. In that moment I realized just how happy and worry free Maxx is. He is not concerned about any judgment I might have of him and he certainly has none of him self. He isn't worried I won't like him, continue to be his friend, or any number of other fears we as humans have about asking for what we want. Especially in the face of "NO!" This little piece of animal wisdom got us to start observing ourselves a little more closely. As we did we noticed there are times when we hesitate in asking for what we want or before checking in with someone about something that might seem tense.		Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less. ~ Marie Curie As we looked more closely we discovered something about our hesitation in the face of these subtle or not so subtle situations. We hesitate because we both expect and try to avoid confrontation. Can you relate? This month's article came out of our little piece of animal wisdom. We hope it will support you in having more fun and less stress in your life too. With love and gratitude, Beth and Neill

	Feature Article:

		How to Avoid Confrontation? The 3 secrets Written by Beth Banning & Neill Gibson Do you ever notice yourself trying to avoid confrontation? If you're like most people you often avoid it at all costs. Do you hate the tension and worry you feel when a confrontation is looming? And what about the bad feelings that linger long after it's over? It's no wonder people try to avoid confrontation. But what if you could change all that? In this article you'll discover three secrets for avoiding confrontation and feeling more comfortable and confident with people's dissatisfaction or upset. *"How can I avoid confrontation?"* First... to continue reading click here

	Focused Attention Update:

		*YES!!* The Access Seminar is happening again. It will be delivered in a new two-part format. Part one will focus on your internal process, how to relate to yourself with more kindness and caring. Part two will focus on the process of relating to others in a more effective, less stressful way. Mark your calendars. The first session of part one will start September 10th. Please contact us if you would like more information about this. Keep your eyes peeled for details and introductory offers.

	Focused Attention Recommendations:

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