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Lessons Learned From
Petra, PhD
(pretty happy dog)
In our last eZine we told you about the recent addition to our family. Petra is one of the smartest little dogs we've ever had. And like many animals, if you watch closely you can learn a lot from them.
The most recent lesson learned from the Tao of Petra is: Ask for what you want.
We don't know about you but we very often find ourselves doing things by ourselves when we could just as easily ask for help. Or going without something we want because we're not used to asking if someone is willing to contribute to us.
Lately, while being entertained by this very cute little dog, we realized that she never hesitates to ask for what she wants.
Whether it's to get up on your lap, go out, eat, or play... whenever she wants something she immediately asks for it.
We love creating new practices for ourselves that help move us in the direction of our desires. So in the spirit of this teaching from the Tao of Petra, we decided to practice the mindfulness of Asking for What We Want.
But first, what makes it so easy for this little dog to ask without hesitation while it often seems so challenging for us to ask? We figured out there are at least two major differences.
First: She never feels "Petra-fied" about asking. She has absolutely no fear of hearing the dreaded word "NO." To Petra, "no" just means "ask again at least two more times."
And when she finally hears "no," she stops and is no worse off than she was before she asked. Which means she isn't frustrated, upset, or sullen. Her attention just easily turns to what she wants next - and she asks for that.
Second: She's not worried about being a bother. She doesn't take responsibility for people's reactions. If they don't want to do what she wants then they won't do it. No big deal. Other people's opinions of her are none of her business.
Now we understand that Petra doesn't mull these deep truths over and think about how to apply them in her life. We're sure she has no "opinion" about them at all. Nevertheless, they are profound ways to be, and with these in mind we created our new practice.
The Asking for What We Want practice goes something like this:
Each day we we identify one thing we can ask for that day, and we ask for it. We remind ourselves that hearing no leaves us no worse off than we were before. And that other people's opinions of us are none of our business.
The Tao of Petra, PhD
In the spirit of this practice we would like to ask you for something. :-)
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Thank you in advance and until next month -- Ask for what you want, and as always, expect the best!
With love and gratitude,
Beth and Neill
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After divorce does your whole life seem to be up in the air, so that even familiar things don't seem the same? Are you confused about what to do now, where to go from here or how to heal a broken heart? Whether or not you asked for the divorce, it may seem as though a tornado has whirled its way through your life, leaving wreckage everywhere. Surviving your divorce and re-creating your life into one that's fun, peaceful, and full of joy may take some time, but it is completely doable. Read on to discover five simple tips for faster divorce recovery. Survival and Recovery Tips: 1. Put your oxygen mask on first — Make a list of 10 kinds of support you could use, and ways to get them. 2. Have a pleasure plan — Make a list of 10 things you love doing, and put them in your schedule so you're sure to do them. 3. Remember you're not alone — For example, underneath profound sadness there might be the regret of a dream lost. It is the dream that speaks of what is important to you. Under depression, there could be judgment of yourself because you wish you had done things differently. How you would rather have done things speaks of what is important to you. When you are able to dig beneath your feelings to discover what's most important to you, you will have found the best friend you've ever had. 4. Look to the future — Create a clear intention for your new life. It is the fastest way to get it. Why? Because what you focus your attention on grows. 5. Be open to miracles — Whatever it is for you, large or small, gratitude is the first step to seeing miracles happen in your life.
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Focused Attention Update
The Art of Conscious Connection 101 eCourse
Participants in the Art of Conscious Connection 101 eCourse are entitled to all the updates and additions that we make to the course, without charge. As always, we are 100% committed to your success and to helping you get everything you want from this eCourse. With that in mind we are always in the process of making changes and creating new tools to ensure that you get the results you want.
Using the Principle of Focused Attention to Achieve the Results You Want
Have you ever stopped to consider why so many people say they want things to be different but they continue to get the same old results? Albert Einstein's definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Time and again people show us that when they participate 100% in our courses they get 100% of the results they want, or more, no matter what results they've chosen.
But participation is the key to getting whatever you want and tracking your participation is best way we've found to keep your attention focused on your goals.
With that in mind, we've just created a very simple and effective Participation Tracking System for the Art of Conscious Connection eCourse so you can easily keep track of how far along you are in getting everything you hope to achieve by taking this course.
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